Just think about how physically costly it is to grow a child, how much of the woman’s physical body and nutrients and molecules are used to grow her baby. And it no longer is as 50/50 as the egg/sperm model makes it out to look. The only thing shared is an equal amount of both parents genes. I’m just trying to challenge the world view you’ve been taught and consider if everything is as clear cut. I do think male biologists and theologians have obscured just how much the bio father deserves
I could sit here and waste my time talking to you, but from the shit you actually had the audacity to say here it would be a waste of time and I’m tired of dealing with psychopaths on Tumblr (sorry to psychopaths – I just don’t have another word to use yet. Anyone have suggestions?) and that means “people” like you.
Seriously, “children belong to the mother” my fucking ass, especially since mothers abuse their children way more than men do if we wanna play dirty. Pfft. Go watch that Judge Judy video I posted on that post and get the fuck out of my askbox, you perpetual victim, you utterly disgusting sexist.
@sunspira my mother abused me. My mother manipulated me. My mother invaded my privacy. My mother threatened to take me to cout because I didn’t want to live with her 50/50. Just this morning, she was emotionally manipulating me and guilting me for being a kid with negative emotions.
Kids don’t “belong” to the mother. You don’t fucking own children like they’re property. The kid should go to the parent that wants them and/or will raise them well, if there is one, because guess what? Abortion is still ending a life that you created, and that can be traumatizing for people. Yes, even men.
I get it. You want what’s best for the woman. But unless this is quite literally a situation of rape, there is no reason why a woman should be having unsafe sex with a man knowing full well she doesn’t want a baby. Abortion should be a last resort, and the fact that you’re treating it as something that should be done when the fuck ever is pretty disgusting.
Actions have consequences. Don’t want a baby? Don’t have unsafe sex to begin with.
And just one last time for you:
Kids do not belong to the mother.
Yes to all of this as well. I was so disgusted by this I didn’t even properly touch on the whole “children are objects” thing this subhuman piece of filth spewed.
Ugh.
Anyway, thank you for sharing your experiences and I’m sorry you had to see such a disgusting message to begin with.
This just in, guys – believe in equality, not being a sexist fuck, taking issue with saying “children belong to their mother”, and not having a downright pathetic worldview where we’re not gynocentric means we’re having a hissy fit. Keep in mind this person randomly messages me because I reblogged a random post (that they’re not even the OP of) and they felt the need to spew their disgusting opinion at me completely unwanted or unwarranted. Gross.
Seriously, I live in a really small town and twice I’ve had racists walk up to me and spew their bullshit – one about how evil Jews and “Pakis” were and the other demanding I wash my hands because I served a family of Asians before her – as well as had people walk up to me and tell me gay people are going to hell and this dumbass has the exact same energy as those people. I’m not even kidding. They talk the same, have the same expectant tone like they of course everyone should just agree with them because obviously they’re right, and everything else.
@the-problematic-blender you deserve to see this of course since this sicko was talking to you too but didn’t even @ you. I blocked them though so if you want to waste your time on this psycho, you might wanna do it elsewhere.
They just said that all the women in their family are abusive.
THEN WHY ARE YOU DEFENDING THEM?
Why are you devaluing and demeaning @the-problematic-blender ’s argument and experiences by equating them to a “hissy fit?” Are you so brainwashed by the abusive matriarchs of your family, that you’ll blindly defend them? Or are you equally brainwashed by the “progressive” hivemind that wants you to “Believe Women” and “Believe Survivors?”
I’ve been beaten by my mother as a child (granted, she’s Carribean); are you gonna tell me that I’m having a hissy fit, too?
That person is a HUGE piece of work I had a huge argument with them and asked them “what if a woman wants to abort her baby because it is a girl and the father is against it?” She said that female infanticide is okay if the mother wants it because it’s her baby.
So aborting a perfectly healthy baby born in a normal situation just because it was the wrong gender is okay… if that’s what the mother wants.
Newest “reform” in Polish schools: teachers are now forbidden from mentioning anything relating to sexuality, especially nonheteronormative sexuality (including transgenderism and intersexuality) under threat of arrest for depraving the youth (an euphemism for csa). @xenoqueer I feel tired.
I don’t know what to say to help with this, but it’s absolutely, superbly fucked up. Your government has completely gone to hell.
And every REAL child molester in Poland cheered with glee and celebrated the fact that children will now have no idea what them sticking a hand in their pants means, and thus will continue to allow them to do it.
so uh. when are anti-fujoshis gonna call out @fujoshi-bullshit for being so horribly transphobic? are yall gonna take out your trash or fucking what???
Yeah.. they’re disturbingly transphobic. O_O
I guess the antis are either transphobic themselves (wouldn’t surprise me..) or they just don’t give a shit.
painfully transphobic
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yikes dude
YIKES.
They also wrote an essay on how anal sex is completely disgusting and that men who partake in it have the mental capacity of literal dogs. You can probably search their blog for that one (I’m on mobile right now) but I’m dead fucking serious.
Oh WOW…Like wtf??!?!?!?!? Just block fujoshi-bullshit and do not engage.
Wait, an anti-fujoshi (ie, the group that claims to champion the rights of mlm) is dissing a sex act popular among mlm? The irony there is rich.
One of the mods is a gay man with severe internalized homophobia, and the rest are straight up TERFs and SWERFs. This is where the current wave of anti-fujoshi ideology comes from, in case people aren’t already aware.
I have a friend who has a child, and their child is always sick. Always crying. Just generally, not a very happy wee lamb. Every other day she’ll come to me, complaining how awful it is to have a Difficult Child. And at first I made all the right sympathetic noises, I consoled her, I asked how I could help.
And then her kid gets allergy testing done, and several allergies are confirmed, and I think great! This is likely why they are always upset and ill! Maybe now they can get better!
And my friend… does not stop exposing them to the allergies.
“But they’re allergic to wheat,” I say, “and milk, and you’re still giving them those things.”
“Oh but they’re only minor allergies, not like, anything dangerous.”
“But that’s not… that’s not how that works,” I say, trying to be helpful, as I explain that even low level inflammation can be extremely detrimental in the long term, and extremely painful to deal with and how exposure therapy doesn’t always work. So of course he’s always sick and always crying. Of course he is.
And she rolls her eyes and says, “Look, I know you think you know a lot about health. But you’re not a parent, so I can’t expect you to understand.”
Because apparently upon the benediction of motherhood, the sacred knowledge of the universe is imparted to you the moment the umbilical cord is cut. Because apparently someone who is sick all the time, wouldn’t be able to understand. Except of course I don’t understand her. I understand her child. And what it’s like to be ignored, and hurt, and abused. And sick.
And suddenly you realize, maybe your friend is not your friend in the way you thought they were. And maybe, likely, probably, they shouldn’t be a parent.
Oh my God. How the hell does anyone do this? Your kid is always sick, you find out they have allergies… you don’t immediately cut that food out of their diet?
Omg if I knew anyone like that I’d smack the shit out of them. As someone who’s had crohn’s disease for almost twenty years, I can personally attest to the fact that the body can be very sensitive to “minor” things, and that inflammation–no matter how localized it may be–WREAKS HAVOC on the ENTIRE body.
They need to report that mother to child services, that must be abuse.
Yeah, especially since allergies can wind up getting worse with more exposure sometimes, right? As in, it can lead to death, depending on the circumstances?
Mom’s clearly abusing the child. Report her to the authorities. If the child has a combined allergic reaction to several things at once it could very well cause death. Several minor allergies added up cause a more severe response.
This is why I’m a firm believer in that you should have to get a license to have a child. Like, make potential parents take a class, have a physical and psychological assessment, and write an exam like how they do for driving.
If we had stuff like that we would see the number of abusers suddenly drop.
so many gay/lesbian people hate being called queer because it waters down our sexuality. it leaves them up for debate. it feels like people are scared of the confirmation of “lesbian” or “gay”. if a woman is a lesbian, it means she has no attraction to men whatsoever. if she is “queer”, well then it’s “fluid” and open to interpretation. same for gay men. it’s not that we’re mean gays who “hate inclusivity”. it’s that our sexualities aren’t fluid. my sexuality is a brick that i’d throw at anyone who calls me queer. going out of your way to call gay men and/or lesbians queer instead of just saying gay/lesbian is homophobic, plain and simple.
Queer is still used as a slur in my country. My grandparents use it.
It’s still used in North America too. I don’t get where anyone got the idea it’s not used as a slur anymore because it’s just not true.
It depends on the area where you live. In my area in North America, it isn’t a slur, but does still make some LGBT+ people uncomfortable.
Trust me, even in San Francisco, there’s probably homophobes that still call gay people “queers”.
(Not saying you live in San Fran, but just using that as an example)
I can get that. That’s why I’m all for like… Personal choice about it. If someone doesn’t mind being called ‘queer’, that’s cool. But not everyone is up for it and that fact needs to be respected by people.
Also in some countries queer has a connotation like “extremist radical who wants to cause trouble always” which is the connotation queer has in India. Only very extremist, very radical, and most often rich urbanites thinking they’re “woke” groups use it.
You can see why normal Indian LGBT people are very wary of the word. Especially considering that general society already thinks down on us, people like this just make straight people want to go “See! I was right! You’re all degenerate freaks!”
Seriously. What on earth could a 3 yr old do to “warrant” a gun to the chest???
Apparently they were in the process of arresting her mother (whom they beat while handcuffed, naturally), also pointed the gun at the head of the child’s grandmother, and pointed the gun at her when she did what any toddler would do and started wailing. The incident gave her one of the worst cases of child PTSD the expert they assigned has ever seen and she’ll need therapy well into her adult years.
Anyone with even a passing knowledge of gun safety knows that you do not point a gun at anyone you are not willing to kill. So best case scenario these officers were grossly incompetent and worst case they were willing to kill a child for crying. This settlement is the least they deserve.
I keep seeing different dialogues and comics about Pride and Prejudice with Reylo, but I have yet to see anyone acknowledge that this all makes Luke be
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