When I see white girls: 😍
When I see brown girls: 😍
When I see Native girls: 😍
When I see Asian girls: 😍
When I see black girls: 😍
When I see light girls: 😍
When I see dark girls: 😍
When I see girls who lift up other girls, regardless of their skin color, and support eachother: 😍😍😍😍😍😍
I’m bringing this post back because all women are queens. 😘😘
Can someone explain the second one to me? I don’t know Pokemon but I’m curious.
@mbtihatemyself This is Cinnabar Lab, where, according to the lab logs you find, experiments/studies were done on a pregnant Mew, resulting in the birth of Mewtwo, likely in this very chamber. Since Mew is a mythical Pokémon and the only one in the game is yours (available exclusively through the Pokéball Plus), the implication is that your Mew is the Mew from the lab logs, and you’re essentially bringing Mew back to the place of this traumatic experience.
(Mewtwo’s game origins are different in the games vs the anime–in the anime, Mewtwo was cloned from a fossil of a Mew, but in the game, it’s explicitly stated that Mew “gave birth” to Mewtwo)
Meanwhile men are victims of violent crimes at rates of like 3 times that of women. People urge “meh, who cares”.
Ummm…by other men so you didn’t make the point you think you made.
No. It’s not my position thay being stabbed somehow is better if the stabber has the same genitals as you do. That’s yours.
No dear, the entire post was about teaching men not to be violent so maybe stop for a minute about the comment you made and how teaching that might save men along with women. Now, be a good little moron and try thinking.
No, it was about how we “teach women not to be victims.” literally the entire fucking post is all about what we tell women to do, not a fucking thing to do about with men. So yea, think about why you prioritize telling the minority of violent crimes ways to prevent them, while ignoring the majority recipient of violent crimes in any way that couldn’t be classified as you just being a horrible bigot.
Last time I checked, a stereotypical mugging victim was a drunk guy who went home alone and got robbed.
Or a man who gets a roofie in his drink.
And most sexual assaults occur indoors. The back alley rape steereotype is partially popularized by feminism, mostly by talking about how scared women are to walk down dark alleys. Convenient, isn’t it?
All these “precautions” are bullshit too.
Putting keys between your fingers does more damage to your hand than to your attacker if you actually try to use them for self defense. It’s more effective to hold a single large, sturdy key as if it were a tiny, shitty knife. Or better yet, carry a knife everywhere you go like a sensible person. Or better, pepper spray which can incapacitate most criminals quickly at a distance without a risk of perforating its wielder. Or better yet, a small pistol which can stop all criminals almost instantly regardless of training or toughness.
The classic idea of a “roofie” being a pill somebody puts in your drink almost never happens. The vast majority of people who thought they had been drugged and actually got tested had nothing but alcohol in their system, but about twice as much alcohol as they expected. Nobody is slipping you additional drugs, you’re just drinking a lot more than you can handle either because you aren’t paying attention or you don’t know how strong those sweet little cocktails are. Focusing on preventing something else from being added is nowhere near as effective as just keeping track of the dosage of the drug you’ve been willingly and knowingly consuming.
Not only are women about a quarter as likely as men to be the target of any violent criminal, but the majority of actual sexual assaults took place in private settings and the perpetrator was known to the victim. The trope of a woman being grabbed by a stranger on the street and dragged into an alley is mostly fictional again.
Might want to take a closer look at who it is telling you to be afraid all the time. If they’re making shit like this up instead of giving you real advice, their motivation can’t actually be your safety, so you gotta wonder why it is that they want you to be irrationally scared of the dark?
Once I was drinking with friends in a field, and later a friend told me that the friend that I’d been sharing drinks with apparently liked putting drugs in the drinks that she gave people and sometimes in her own drink – she later confirmed that she’d done it to me when I asked her about it, and she thought that was funny. Another time in a club a group of friends brought their friend a drink, he already had a drink so, trusting his friends, he gave the second one to me… it turned out they’d slipped ecstasy into the drink intended for him, I overheard the conversation and they left quickly. I’ve also been spiked with alcohol by friends (where someone covertly slips a harder drink like absinthe or vodka or even a small amount of ethanol into whatever you’re drinking), and we caught somebody doing that to a friend of mine at a party, which the perpetrator again thought was funny.
In my experience, most people know about keeping an eye on their drink around strangers, but they don’t know to do the same thing with friends who may prank them, or otherwise spike them with drugs or alcohol as some kind of joke or attempt to get them to “lighten up”. A lot of people also don’t seem to know that you can accidentally “drug” yourself by not knowing how your medication or recreational drugs interact with alcohol, or not knowing the strength of what you’re drinking.
What you say above about counting units and knowing your limits is important, but it’s also important to remember that people who go to the hospital claiming to have been spiked but just have a lot of alcohol in their system may still have been spiked. Somebody slipping much stronger alcohol into your weak drink is still spiking you, even if it’s with the same drug that you’re willingly taking, and even if it’s your friends doing it for a laugh. I do kinda dislike the fact that “Most people just have twice as much alcohol as they expected.” is used as an argument that spiking doesn’t happen as often as we think, when we have no way of knowing how many of those people just lost track of drinks and how many were genuinely spiked with alcohol. Both of those things happen, and people should take precautions to avoid both of them.
Also, yes you are much more likely to be sexually assaulted by somebody you know, but assaults by strangers do still happen – to both men and women, by both men and women – and it’s important to take safety precautions. Those precautions will help you if you’re targeted for other crimes too, like mugging – since somebody who is too drunk, not aware of their surroundings, not able to defend themselves, etc, could be victimized by any number of crimes. Just because something happens rarely doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be prepared for it – getting hit by lightning is rare, but we still teach people safety precautions for if they’re caught out in a storm, and it would be less rare if we didn’t do that.
Here’s some tips, which go for anyone of any gender:
1) Cover your drink around your rambunctious or less close/less trustworthy friends too, don’t leave it alone with them, and don’t accept drinks from them. A lot of people bounce off each other when drunk and can talk each other into thinking that pouring a bit of vodka into the beer you left with them when you went to the loo is a good idea. You can also drink things that come in a bottle or can, it’s much easier to casually cover the top with your thumb than it is to cover a glass, they’re usually sealed until you get them, and they will have the units written on the side so it’s easier to keep track. Don’t blindly trust someone just because they’re a woman, just because they’re your friend’s friend, or just because they seem nice.
2) Learn to defend yourself, stay as physically fit as you can, and carry whatever weapon you can legally carry. This includes a heavy bag. We can’t carry weapons legally where I live (and self-defence is not considered a valid reason for carrying a knife here), so it’s a good idea to look up what you can legally carry where you live, and what counts legally as a valid reason for carrying it. I’d say take self-defense classes, but one I went to taught us to just “Give them what they want, then call the police.” so instead I’ll advise to take martial arts classes or find a good self-defense class.
3) Always know your limits, know how any medication you take interacts with alcohol or drugs, research any drugs you take thoroughly (don’t just take your friend’s word for it) and make sure they’re from a trustworthy dealer who hasn’t cut them with anything (although that’s easier said than done), and keep track of whatever you drink or take (preferably write it down) – if you end up in hospital for any reason, tell them exactly what you’ve had. No, you won’t be arrested for telling them or for having a list, arrests are only made for possession or distribution. Always have a plan for how to get home that can be enacted at any time and at any level of intoxication.
4) If you’re walking alone keep one headphone out or have the music low enough to hear other things – this isn’t just in case of approaching attackers, but also cars, cyclists, and other potential hazards. Be aware of what’s around you – sound, sight, and smell. Try to walk with friends or in areas that aren’t secluded. You can also put a covert recording app on your phone, so that if anything happens you can have more evidence. Try to spot and remember any distinguishing features of the attacker.
5) If you’re under the legal drinking age, please don’t drink or do drugs – but if you do, number 1 and number 3 are doubly important. Definitely don’t accept drink or drugs from strangers or “my mate’s mate” or your rambunctious friends or when you don’t know where your friend got it from – sometimes nothing bad happens, sometimes the person who’s willing to break that law is willing to break others. Always tell an adult you can trust where you’re going and what time you’ll be back and who you’re with, and make sure that there’s somebody who can pick you up and help you if anything bad happens.
In reply to the original tweet, when I say these things it’s not because I’m blaming myself or others for the fact that we’ve been assaulted, sexually assaulted, drugged, or otherwise victimized – it’s because I can’t stop other people from hurting people. If prison, their conscience, the heinousness of the crime, ad campaigns, the fact that it’s so hated by society that it’s used to immediately establish a character as an irredeemable villain while even murder is something that audiences will forgive… if none of that can convince an asshole not to do something so horrific, then me just saying “don’t” isn’t going to sway them either. It didn’t stop somebody from assaulting me at the time, I don’t see why it would stop somebody now.
Prevention efforts involve isolating risk factors, intervention, rehabilitation, better mental health help, actually setting up confidential services to help people who may be at risk of doing something bad, and so on… tweets or Tumblr posts aren’t gonna cut it. But we can help get information out there that will help potential victims (of any gender) defend themselves or avoid dangerous situations so that they don’t end up getting hurt, and we can do that with something as simple as a Tumblr post. That’s no more victim blaming than it is victim blaming to teach people how to wear a harness while climbing so that they don’t fall – we’re trying to protect people and prevent those bad things from happening again, not casting any judgement on the people to whom it has happened.
Note to vacationing non-Americans: while it’s true that America doesn’t always have the best food culture, the food in our restaurants is really not representative of what most of us eat at home. The portions at Cheesecake Factory or IHOP are meant to be indulgent, not just “what Americans are used to.”
If you eat at a regular American household, during a regular meal where they’re not going out of their way to impress guests, you probably will not be served twelve pounds of chocolate-covered cream cheese. Please bear this in mind before writing yet another “omg I can’t believe American food” post.
Also, most American restaurant portions are 100% intended as two meals’ worth of food. Some of my older Irish relatives still struggle with the idea that it’s not just not rude to eat half your meal and take the rest home, it’s expected. (Apparently this is somewhat of an American custom.)
Until you’re hitting the “fancy restaurant” tier (the kind of place you go for a celebration or an anniversary date), a dinner out should generally also be lunch for the next day. Leftovers are very much the norm.
From the little time I’ve spent in Canada, this seems to be the case up there as well.
the portions in family restaurants (as opposed to haute cuisine types) are designed so that no one goes away hungry.
volume IS very much a part of the american hospitality tradition, and Nobody Leaves Hungry is important. but you have to recognize that it’s not how we cook for ourselves, it’s how we welcome guests and strengthen community ties.
so in order to give you a celebratory experience and make you feel welcomed, family restaurants make the portions big enough that even if you’re a teenage boy celebrating a hard win on the basketball court, you’re still going to be comfortably full when you leave.
of course, that means that for your average person with a sit-down job, who ate a decent lunch that day, it’s twice as much as they want or more. that’s ok. as mentioned above, taking home leftovers is absolutely encouraged. that, too, is part of american hospitality tradition; it’s meant to invoke fond memories of grandma loading you down with covered dishes so you can have hearty celebration food all week. pot luck church basement get-togethers where the whole town makes sure everybody has enough. that sort of thing. it’s about sharing. it’s about celebrating Plenty.
it’s not about pigging out until you get huge. treating it that way is pretty disrespectful of our culture. and you know, contrary to what the world thinks, we do have one.
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