Me: “Stay at home mothers are more likely to be taken advantage of and are unable to leave abusive situations because of financial dependency. Anything can happen in the modern day so you shouldn’t rely on anybody especially financially”
Saying that something isn’t practical in modern society due to economic constraints isn’t hating. Nor is pointing out that a housewife is less able to take care of herself and her children than a career woman.
It’s not hating it’s saying that modern society means anything can happen and you can’t rely on somebody for anything.
sorta related but i dont like that tumblr has made “unhealthy relationship” mean “one person is an abuser and the other is a victim”
unhealthy relationship means just that. a relationship that is unhealthy. whether because a party is uninterested, both parties bring out the worst in eachother, theres just no more spark, etc
just stop using “unhealthy relationship” as if its perfectly synonymous with “abusive relationship”
abusive relationships are DEFINITELY unhealthy relationships but not all unhealthy relationships are abusive, ya dig?
Important post.
Not everyone you don’t get along with is an abuser.
Making fun of girls who dream of being a wife and stay-at-home-mom actually doesn’t make you progressive or feminist or cool, it just makes you a person who shits on someone else’s dream, a.k.a an asshole
Whenever someone says that I say “Okay, whatever floats your boat, I guess” and then I think “Why would she want that? Isn’t it boring to just sit around all day and do nothing?”
Moms don’t “sit around all day and do nothing” – they have a incredibly important 24/7 job: raising little human beings. Don’t devalue that by calling it “nothing”.
Man, my mom cooked, cleaned, paid the bills, went grocery shopping, did my hair every morning before school and every night (which, as a white woman with no prior experience of doing black hair, especially on a tender-headed child, is no easy feat). She helped with my homework, consoled me after a bad day, frequently volunteered at the school. She even picked my anxious, crying ass up from kindergarten early nearly every day for the first semester and would lie down with me every night when I was a child until I fell asleep (and that usually took several hours). That’s not even scratching the surface of all the things she’s done for me and my siblings. She was always the first person up and the last person to go to bed. Nothing about what she did, and continues to do to a lesser degree, is easy.
Domestic work is constantly undervalued even though every family depends on it. My grandmother on my mom’s side would go hungry just so her kids could eat – that is not nothing.
Also, if you would commend a man for being a stay at home dad and doing exactly what women have been doing for centuries, don’t pretend you care about women’s labor.
If you think stay at home moms “sit around and do nothing”, either you never had a stay at home mom or you think Peggy Bundy is the typical housewife.
The problem is that being a housewife today isn’t practical. And housewives are more likely to be mistreated or taken for granted by their husbands than career women.
Plus if a career woman is having problems with her husband, she can leave him. However a housewife in an abusive or otherwise bad relationship is stuck and has no means of escape.
It also does a disservice to the children in some cases because if the husband is abusing the children but not her, she has to allow her child to get abused because nobody else in the family can earn.
And even if the husband is a good man, if he gets into alcohol/drugs, loses his job, gets an injury, or is incapacitated in any way, nobody can support the children. However a career woman in such a situation can pick up the slack.
All said and done a housewife is still a dependent on her husband and if you’re a dependent, there are many things you can’t control and you leave yourself at risk for being taken advantage of.
Site Title 