I’m so sorry that they said those awful things to you. 😦 I swear antis don’t have an ounce of compassion. Either they don’t care or they’re completely clueless of the pain and harm they cause people.
My husband went to the grocery store and was gone longer than expected. I called him and he said he went to the grocery store further away because they have certain items that the one closer does not. I said “Oh, that’s fine. You had just been gone a while and I wanted to make sure no one had shot up the grocery store or anything.”
I said that with a straight face and all sincerity. That’s legit where my mind goes now. This is not okay.
Get a shrink.
Paranoia isn’t healthy OP. Your fears are not based in reality. Get help.
Am…am I the only one who thinks OP’s husband is just having an affair and this is how OP is coping?
one of my best friends is a cishet white male whose thoughts on lgbt people don’t stretch much further than “gay people aren’t evil”, but honestly i’d rather be friends with a fairly clueless an ally than a ze/zir asexual demiboy genderist who thinks lesbians are evil for liking pussy
oh and he put up with and supported me a few years ago when i was knee-deep in mogai what an icon
Honestly my best friend is the same, tho he’s a very accepting ally, he just doesn’t know about AAAANY of the discourse bc he stays off this hellsite, doesn’t use twitter, etc etc. Pmuch all his info comes from me and he rly…doesn’t care lol. And for some reason every wlw in the vicinity wants to be his friend 🤔
My dad isn’t an ally exactly. He’s one of those people who believes it’s a sin to be gay.
But he still supports my sister and I and even took in my sisters trans friend when they were living with their abusive dad.
He doesn’t really care if your gay or straight just don’t make it your personality.
Tbh he’s a pretty good ally considering his beliefs. I dont know everything about him ofc but based on that I respect him, treating people well even when you disagree is admirable 👏
The transmed community has become so toxic and shitty. I wish I saw it sooner. The beliefs, and ideology are correct, but the people in this community have become so bad.
Its sexist in a way too, you see a transman do something bad and people don’t seem to care. You see a woman, more specifically an mtf do something “bad” and people shit on you. Hard.
At this point the only good transmed blogs are normally the ones that aren’t exclusively transmed blogs. They aren’t so one sided.
Trust me i’m still a transmed at heart, but the community. God its awful.
Blame this on recent events all you want, and yea you would be right. Because this opened my eyes more than it had before. Plus talking with some other transmeds. I’m passionate about these views, but I can’t like the community for the way it is right now.
A lot of transmeds call tucutes a echo chamber community but then turn on another transmed the second they say one thing the other doesn’t agree with. It’s sort of a double standard if you ask me.
Right? Like take my situation for example.
I discourse a lot with radfems yes? I made one post during a mental breakdown saying I didn’t want to do anything with them anymore, THE NEXT MORNING I MADE A POST NEGATING THAT. But no one cared, instead now i’m seen as an attention seeking manipulative cunt.
Also apparently a troll for “fitting terf stereotypes of trans women” like its convenient. The community is so shitty towards women, trans women specifically, but then act like they care, when I unintentionally fit the stereotypes TERFs place onto transwomen. Like yes obviously I chose hypersexuality uwu. Like no what? I hate this with a passion??
Its so awful.
Yeah. I personally believe that it’s because so many transmeds are so eager to attack terfs and radfems that they begin to lose track of the line between radical feminism and other feminism. I’m not a feminist but other transmeds attacking you, a literal trans woman, for being one is absolute trash and you don’t deserve it. Also, especially fuck the transmeds who are spreading lies about you.
YES!!! LIKE SERIOUSLY. Radfem doesn’t inherently mean fucking transphobia. Theres a reason why TERFs and TIRFs are a different thing??? Trans exclusionary radical feminist, and Trans inclusive radical feminist. But everyone seems to fucking ignore that, and only focus on the bad parts??
I’ve always been one of those people that participates in the communities, but I’m not really IN the community. Like, I hold transmed beleifs, but I’m not going to suck your dick because you’re a transmed. I gots my own opinions. I personally don’t trust radfems (hell, because of past experiences, I barely trust normal feminists) but I know that TIRFs and TERFs are VERY different
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