“I was in the military years ago and while I was deployed my wife cheated on me. I found out and started divorce proceedings. In the mean time, there was no room for me in the barracks and I had to stay in my housing unit with her until a spot opened up.
My soon-to-be ex made the decision for both of us that we were going to stay married no matter how many times I told her it was over and it was only a matter of time until we went to court.
One night I came home from my unit and she insisted we have sex. I told her there was no way in hell that was happening. She then physically made it happen. She literally chased me around our living room pulling my uniform off, piece by piece. She ripped my shirt off my torso.
I didn’t want it. I struggled against it. I said no and stop over and over again. She practically held me down but I knew if I fought her off she could scream abuse and I’d hang for it. The military does NOT play around when it comes to domestic violence. She knew that and used it to get what she wanted.
Later that night I tried to leave the house once and for all and she physically attacked me. I had to stand there and take it because I knew if I laid a hand on her, I would go to jail and my career would be over. She hit me multiple times and scratched me and drew blood and smashed my nose enough that I had breathing problems for months afterwards.
The MPs (military police) show up and she starts screaming how I attacked her and she had to fight me off. I ask the MPs how that is possible as she doesn’t have a mark on her and I am bleeding everywhere. The MPs are sympathetic.
I get told that despite the evidence, since I’m the male and the soldier, I have to leave the house and they have to take me into custody. I get arrested for domestic violence. She gets arrested as well, but the charge is simply assault.
Later during my interview with the MP’s I told them what she did to force me to have sex, holding me down, ignoring me telling her to stop, etc. The sergeant shook his head and asked me “Did you get an erection?” “Yeah, of course, she kept playing with my dick and sucking on it, I couldn’t stop her.” “Well, you can’t rape the willing.” And that was that.
I still don’t really know how to deal with it.
I have since remarried and one time I told my wife about it and she said almost the same thing. “Guys can’t get raped. Your dick wouldn’t get hard if you didn’t want it.” This is a woman who is A+ in pre-law and who is someone I consider very intelligent. shrug A lot of women don’t believe you can rape a man.“
-Reddit user Slain-Immortal
Link to the thread-
https://m.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/52kvpi/serious_men_who_have_been_raped_sexually/?utm_source=mweb_redirect&compact=trueMen can be victims too. We’ve created a society where men are always seen as the abuser. This is a problem that needs to be addressed
“You can’t rape the willing.”
“Your dick wouldn’t get hard if you didn’t want it.”
The reverse would have about as much of a chance in court as a fart in a hurricane. Even suggest that a woman becoming aroused during the act means that she wanted it in any way, and people would want your head on a pike.
Damn, military men have an awful time of it.
A lot of people flat out don’t believe men can be coerced by women. Or that sexual organs have involuntary responses to stimuli.
Are you fucking kidding me?
Okay now that I posted an outraged sentence that could go either way so people might actually click to read this:
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Male rape is no joke.
Men can be raped. Women can rape men. Period. End of story. If you disagree, fuck off.
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