transmeddling:

if you wouldn’t call a lesbian you’ve never met a dyke, don’t call her a queer.

if you wouldn’t call a mlm you’ve never met a faggot, don’t call him a queer.

if you wouldn’t call a trans person you’ve never met a tranny, don’t call them a queer.

if you hurl an insult at a stranger, they will assume you mean them harm.