princessbubblegumandjustice:

swedepea:

i-rogue:

swedepea:

casuallyfantastic2001:

realisticrecovery:

anyway, abusive women are just as bad as abusive men.

Shameful how low the notes are

All abusers are bad. HOWEVER, a man can easily kill a woman with his bare hands, the same is not true for women. A woman can hit a man and it will hurt (legitimately), perhaps even leave a bruise. A man can hit a woman and knock her unconscious, cause internal bleeding, or even kill her. So again, while all abusers are bad and all abusers are WRONG, they are still on different levels of severity.

So what you’re saying is women are weak, fragile creatures incapable of seriously hurting anyone.

No, I’m saying that it’s really fucking hard to kill a person with your bare hands and it’s almost physically impossible for an average woman to do so to a healthy male (he will fight back and resist, obviously). Males on the other hand can easily overpower and kill women with nothing but their hands (regardless of how much the woman fights back). Men are exponentially more deadly than women and statistics back that up. In fact the thing that kills women more than any disease or accident? MEN.

https://healthcare.utah.edu/the-scope/shows.php?shows=0_vfhu9ewv

Swedepea doesn’t know what she’s talking about and makes herself look like an abuse apologist: an outline

• Her counterargument is a “just in case,” which is focusing on a hyperspecific worst-case scenario (domestic abuse resulting in death) instead of what is the most likely scenario.
• Swedepea’s logic isn’t sound. 1/3 of female homicide victims being killed by an intimate partner doesn’t mean that 1/3 of females overall are killed by an intimate partner.
• Intimate partner violence that ends in death accounts for only 14% of all homicides (Bureau of Justice Statistics, Female Victims of Violence, 2009).
• The leading cause of death for women is not homicide. For women overall it is heart disease. For women and girls under age 35 it is unintentional injuries, for over age 35 it is cancer or heart disease. Homicide is listed highest, in third behind unintentional injuries and suicide, for women between 20-24 (CDC, LCOD All Females by Age Group, 2015).  
• Overall men and women who kill do so in identical ways when it comes to their weapon of choice. The top five methods for men and women are the same. 
• Men are most likely to use a gun (67%), knife (12%), beating (7.1%), other (7%), and blunt object (4.5%). Beating makes up a higher percentage of female murderers’ weapons compared to men. Women are most likely to use a gun (39%), knife (23%), other (12%) tied for third, beating (12%) tied for third, and blunt object (5.4%). So the claim that women cannot kill with her bare hands like a man is false. The claim women can at most leave a bruise is false (The Washington Post, The Weapons Men and Women Most Often Use to Kill, 2015).
• And it’s not like women might just be using these when fighting another woman. Women are three times more likely to be kill males (7.1% of all homicides) than females (2.1% of all homicides) (Mary Ann Liebert Inc., Gender Differences in Patterns and Trends in U.S. Homicide, 1976-2015, 2017).

So anyway, abusive women are just as bad as abusive men and there is no need for a “however,” or “but,” to be added to this post.

Abuse is abuse is abuse. Calling female abusers “less severe” is an abuse apologist tactic used to undermine the trauma of victims and enables abuse by convincing victims their pain “isn’t as bad as others” (even when it objectively is) so it isn’t real or isn’t worth reporting. It benefits nobody except abusers. 

A black eye is a black eye, male or female abuser it doesn’t matter. PTSD is PTSD, male or female abuser it doesn’t matter. Murder is murder, male or female abuser it doesn’t matter.