(cont.) also yes, it is not an oppression contest. But have you considered the fact that what women face is a million times worse than what men face? For example in many countries they have special provisions for the poor because they are disadvantaged. its not that the governments are ignoring the rich? they know that rich people dont need as much help as poor do. same in the case of men and women. yes men go through a lot of stuff but also they have a huge advantage over women.
when women on tumblr say “i hate men” or “men are trash” do you think they punch them in the face when they see them or something? No. This whole men is trash conversation started so that men know what it is like when women are catcalled or bullied online. however you dont see any women complaining about every rap song calling women a bitch or a whore right? because women are so used to being treated like trash irl.
nobody is declining the fact that men can be victims. however, the perpetrators, in cases where men are victims, are almost all men. if you can generalise muslims as being a problem because of terrorism or love jihad, why cant you generalise men as being problematic? I know why. Because you are those types of girls who go all like “im not like other girls” just to get attention lol.
Firstly people in the gulf are anti expat towards both men and women. I, as well as my girl classmates, had been granted equal opportunities as the boys in my school and no one aside from little children have said that “girls go to college to get some knowledge/boys go to school to be a fool” or “You can’t wear pink you’re a boy!!!”. Kuwait and Dubai, compared to Saudi Arabia, are much better places to be in. I’ve felt the safest in Kuwait and so have my friends.
Secondly, America is not the same as the rest of the world, FYI. The posts I’ve reblogged so far are largely related to America and women in USA have far more rights and acts for protection when compared to the rest of the world. This doesn’t mean that there aren’t misogynists out there, but it’s not in general an alarming situation. No one’s pressurizing you to get married bc omg what will your relatives say? No one’s trying to break up your marriage because the woman you married is of a lower caste than you, and then hiding your kid away for 3-4 years because of her inter caste status in the bloody States.
And Bullshit. There are women who are perpetrators of rape and domestic abuse. The Dillon incident don’t ring any bells for you? Women are not angels, and not all women are victims.
Thirdly, tumblr is happy saying men are trash under the pretext of a joke, alongside making jokes about male rape and abuse and filing it under “muh patriarchy” and “omg it’s a joke not all women”. No one would dare joke about female rape and abuse because only scum would do that. Tumblr is not the ideal role model for feminism.
And FYI, muslims are not the problem. I do not have a fucking problem with muslims. I grew up with muslims, Some of my school friends and family friends are muslims. The teachers who taught me arabic are muslim.
My problem is with Islam, which is anti feminist and against everything I stand for. Girls as young as 6 (and from what @someoneintheshadow456 told me, as young as 1) are wearing the frigging Hijab here in Kerala, which makes no fucking sense?? What’s so sexualizing about a young girl’s body?! My feelings are irrelevant if they wish to wear it out of their free will. But not this. This I can’t agree with. That’s why I’m against Love Jihad as well.
Chal, if that helps anon kutti sleep at night, you can assume whatever the hell you want about me. If I wanted attention, I would have gone outside.
(Also from what I read, guy gamers in general are more concerned about how well the girl gamer is playing. Some of you should talk to actual men. Good luck.)
Anon, I also live in India, the same region as Lemonade. We both have seen similar things and experiences. I can attest that most of the oppression against women in India isn’t done by men, it’s done by other women.
Most of the abuses in marriages I’ve seen are perpetuated by the mother in law and the husband just allows it to happen. Most of the time female infanticide is done at the behest of the mother in law, not the husband.
I was a girl gamer and geek in school, who bullied me for it? Not men. Girls my age. Who said I was “not acting like a normal girl” and that “I wouldn’t get a husband” if I was into video games and anime. Well good thing most men don’t give a damn and are too busy worrying about themselves to care if a girl plays games.
Daughters are abused by their mothers more than their fathers, who usually are more neglectful than abusive. Even the hijab example and Islam, it’s usually forced upon by the mother and FGM is almost always performed by female relatives. Honour killings are usually the woman’s idea even if the man does it. Forced marriages are often arranged by the mother, not the father.
All my life women have told me that men are dangerous and will want to rape me and that as a woman I have to fear always. However it was all a lie, and left me open to abuse from girls throughout my life.
When I was in elementary school, girls bullied me for having breasts and for having periods. I was called names and groped in the changing room, I had my bra strap snapped in the classroom. Girls called me “metal mouth” for having braces, they teased me for having pimples, they called me ugly and teased me for my hair.
When I went to the teacher for this, she dismissed them and told me not to take it seriously because “They’re just girls. Girls can’t do anything.”
In high school, my friend group conspired with my ex boyfriend so that he could molest me at a birthday party while they laughed and watched. I told the school about it.
My ex was punished, but my friends however got away scott free even though it was their idea to begin with.
When I was in college, I was raped by my best friend, a girl. I got little to no sympathy and was told “at least you’re still a virgin” because a girl did it to me. When I went to Tumblr to express my trauma, feminists didn’t help me. They told me to feel sorry for my rapist and that men were really at fault because “patriarchy.”
Women oppressing women is something that goes on all the time. And nobody even cares about it and the victims are dismissed and mocked. If you were truly a feminist, you would do something about this.
But most feminists aren’t pro women. They’re anti men.
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