Don’t forget that the person doing this can also end up being abusive in a different way.

A partner who is codependent on you for basic decency, and who idolizes you to that extent isn’t healthy, and they can sometimes end up mimicking the same abusive patterns they were subjected to because of this lack of self assurance. 

If you catch yourself doing this stop and think first, otherwise you might end up damaging your partner’s mental health as well.