hislittleflower-throughconcrete:
i can’t stand anti feminist women
seriously
they’re so grossly uneducated about feminism
i don’t know if they’ve been raised by their misogynistic fathers
or if they just choose not to stand with feminism and with their own sisters, mothers, aunts because they want to appeal to men or just be not like the other girls
but it’s so ridiculous and upsetting
i just want to know who hurt you tbh
I’d tell you but I have to go to my secret patriarchy meeting that you’re not invited to, sorry.
I have a minor in Women’s Studies. It was getting that minor that led me to leaving the feminist movement.
Can’t really be sure which part made me leave but I had a lot to choose from:
-massive victimization complex and culture
-condescending bullshit (much like OPs)and elitism, usually coming from someone from Western, middle-to-upper class privileged backgrounds
-pretending that inconvenient parts of their history didn’t exist (rampant racism, homophobia, eugenics, ableism, transphobia).
-promotion of history by “scholars” who wanted to provide either scary horror sound-bites (”The Burning Times” “rule of thumb”) or feel-good fake history (the idea of a giant overarching ancient feminist matriarchy where everything was perfect until PATRIARCHY).
-pushing of the “right” literature and the “right” authors
-rampant anti-Christianity, especially against the Catholic Church. All others got a free pass.
-idealization of lesbianism as the epitome of feminism, while simultaneously ignoring actual lesbian issues
-aggressively promoting limitless free sex, even if it meant supporting birth control methods known to be harmful, pretending STDs are minor issues, making up statistics and using figureheads to promote abortion, which is always perfect
– condenscending feminist pseudo-colonialist behavior towards non-Western countries. They are either overly idealized and ignore anything bad coming from them, or passive-aggressively lecture them on “women’s health”, making sure village health centers have plenty of MVAs for abortions and Depo-Provera kits but no mosquito nets to prevent malaria
– Want to have kids? If the anti-child rhetoric doesn’t sway you, Here’s some heavy-handed anti-medical propaganda and promotion of birthing like you’re in the third world, regardless of you or the baby’s ultimate health.
Well, I will take some of that back, there were two classes I took for the minor that were worthwhile.
Women and Minorities in the Media, which focused on actual real-time strategies that people could do to move things forward, encouraging action instead of passive complaining and protesting. Like challenging feminist rhetoric
Medieval Women’s History, where I learned that, for a supposed backwards oh-so-evil Catholic Church that hated all those strong women, they sure produced and revered a lot of strong women that did fantastic things. That class was also a major factor in me leaving Wicca and becoming a Catholic, but that’s another story.
Why do so many feminists, who agree Freud was a sexist psycho, always default to “sorry your daddy oppressed you.”
Fucking really?
My dad, whose mom was a WAC in WWII and came from a family of tough Italian women, taught me how to fish and camp, helped me with my Girl Scout projects, and volunteered for awhile at a domestic abuse shelter helping battered women.
What’s your dad done? Shit, honey, what have YOU done?
it’s people like you why I left the feminist movement. Look in the mirror – there’s the problem. Lies, misdirection, gaslighting, victim-blaming, willful ignorance and absolute refusal to even CONSIDER AND LISTEN to constructive criticism.
That’s pretty much why I left as well. The constant bullying and ostracizing and cultish attitude was just too much. Say the wrong thing and bam, they throw you under the bus and expect you to grovel at their feet for forgiveness, and they won’t give it, but they’ll make you think they will. I saw that too many times and refused to play the game. Glad I ditched them. I don’t need more abuse in my life.
@princess-of-misandry Who hurt me? Funny you should ask that, dear.
Actually it was feminists, trying to tell me that the men around me are evil. And that I am somehow an eternal victim. Even in the Western Society, in which I have a freedom that women in a large portion of the world only dream of.
Women in days gone by did many wonderful things, for which I will always be thankful to them. Whether they called themselves feminists or not, I neither know or care.
But present day Western feminists do nothing whatsoever to make me want to join them.
And I can love and want to support other women without calling myself a feminist and certainly without hating men.
I wish I could add to this, but my feelings are perfectly summed up already.
And I can love and want to support other women without calling myself a feminist and certainly without hating men.
Exactly. Feminism is not a synonym for women’s rights, supporting women, or rights for all people. I hate when people say “If you support women rights, congratulations you are a feminist” – y’all don’t have a monopoly on human decency (indeed, many actions of the feminist movement suggest the opposite). Feminism has specific beliefs and agendas, and in many ways is a religion. It is not the god I want to worship.
Who hurt me?
My stepmom when I told her that I had a trans girlfriend said that she looked like a man and then proceeded to railroad me on whether I knew her or not, how “comfortable” I would be around her, etc. guilt-tripping me for what seemed like forever to the point where I would rather TELL MY DAD that she’s coming over my house than get involved in another angry screaming guilt trip.
Who hurt me?
My so called “best friend” in college who raped me a week after I came out to her as bisexual and proceeded to subject me to nine months of mental and physical abuse, AND tried to cut everybody out of my life so I would have nothing but her.
The most disturbing part about all this was SHE WAS STRAIGHT. She was so desperate to have someone love her in any way that she was willing to take advantage of peoples weak points and completely destroy them so that they will stay with you.
And when I came to the internet for resources on how to fix my trauma feminists victim blamed me and told me to sympathise with my rapist because “she only did it because of patriarchy.” And told me not to speak about it because it might “offend the real victims of rape”
The “egalitarians” feminists love to paint as misogynistic however were the only ones who felt sympathy for me, and told me rape was rape regardless of gender.
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