“Come to my house and I’ll cook for you” is NOT a date.
“I’ll come to your house and you can cook for me” is NOT a date.“
That is just disrespectful!!
If he thinks so little of you, or is too lazy and inconsiderate to plan an actual date ie dinner, an activity, an event etc, lose him quick!!
This is not just blatant disrespect, but this is a guy who is incapable of leading or protecting you.
You’ll be made to carry the entire weight of the relationship/marriage ie planning all the social events, family outings and so on.
As a woman, you deserve to be wooed and courted.
Complacency, laziness and disrespect in the dating stage will only increase in the relationship or marital stage, and you are not doing him any favours by making it easy for him.
Men enjoy having to fight or work for something. Take that away from him and you take away his sense of purpose, his drive and his interest in you.
Men will only treat you disrespectfully if you continue to accept or tolerate disrespectful behaviour.
You don’t need to call him out on it, explain that he needs to plan a date, demand it or argue with him.
It’ll just frustrate you, annoy him, and crush your femininity.
You are a valuable woman and a man doing this is telling you that you are worth his time, energy or effort.
Don’t allow men like these to condition and groom you into becoming a naggy, jaded and bitter woman, which is what will happen if you continue to engage with men whom you have to explain basic adult behaviour.
Men like these are not confused or ignorant.
They know what to do; they just don’t care and they enjoy driving you crazy, seeing you explain over and over again the basics of adult behaviour.
Just walk away, decline any dates and cut all contact with him.
There are men out there who true adult gentlemen that know how to treat women.
Explaining the basic rules of adult behaviour is not normal and a sign that you are dealing with a disordered individual, a sociopath who has a complete disregard for social rules and norms. tradcatfem.com
going gay
ah, the tradwives some of us have been saying women should be more like
A “traditional catholic feminist” – objecting to people just coming over and watching something they like together and bonding over that?
…what exactly should the alternative be? That the dude takes his girlfriend out on an expensive date?
“You deserve to be wooed and courted” – how does can that not fit into watching a tv show together?
It just strikes me as odd… like, I get what OP is complaining about, but the lack of the concrete suggestions for solutions makes it sound a lot more whiny than it was probably meant for
OP is classist. Not everyone can afford taking their partner to fancy restaurants or things like that.
Plus there are introverted women who don’t like crowded places, for them ‘Netflix and Chill’ or private house dates are a godsend.
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